What Your Teen Really Wants (It’s Not What You Think) I was sitting across from Marcus, a 16-year-old who’d been caught shoplifting. His parents were devastated, confused. “We give him everything,” his mother said. “What more does he want?” Marcus finally spoke, voice barely above a whisper: “I just want you to know me.” They […]
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Let me share a scene I’ve witnessed countless times in my practice: A father discovers his 15-year-old daughter posted something questionable on social media. He confronts her. He has facts, screenshots, logic. He’s absolutely, undeniably right. The conversation escalates. His daughter storms off. He wins the argument. He also loses something far more valuable: his
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The Communication Gap That’s Costing Our Families Everything Every evening, it plays out in millions of homes. A parent asks, “How was school?” The teen mumbles, “Fine,” eyes glued to their phone. The parent tries again. The teen retreats further. Another opportunity for connection, lost. After a long time working with families, I’ve witnessed a
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Over the past three weeks, I’ve shared the personal story, brain science, and specific strategies behind my family’s transformation from daily phone battles to collaborative boundary-setting. Today, I want to give you the complete implementation roadmap—the exact 6-week process I use with families in my coaching practice to create lasting change without destroying relationships. This
Customer Service Week always gives me pause. As someone who has built a career serving families, it’s easy to fall into the role of expert, guide, and teacher. But this week, I want to acknowledge a truth that becomes clearer over and over again. My clients have taught me far more than I could ever
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“Mom, I want to focus on my final exams. Can you hold my phone until they’re over?” I had to sit down when my daughter said these words to me. This was the same teenager who, just six months earlier, had been hiding her phone under her pillow, taking it to the bathroom, and seeming
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“Just put your phone down.” “Use some self-control.” “You’re smarter than this.” If you’ve said these words to your teenager (and I know you have, because I said them countless times to mine), you’ve probably been met with eye rolls, arguments, or complete emotional shutdown. Here’s what I wish I’d understood earlier: your intelligent, capable
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I still get a pit in my stomach when I think about that Tuesday afternoon phone call. “Your daughter was late to class again today,” the school secretary said, her voice carrying that familiar tone of concern mixed with mild irritation. “And she didn’t turn in her history assignment.” I stared at my phone, genuinely
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The teenager you miss is still there. Let’s bring them home. Remember when your teenager used to talk to you? When they would look up from homework without being asked three times? When family dinners didn’t feel like eating with a stranger who happened to live in your house? Your bright, capable, loving teenager hasn’t
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We all have dreams—whether it’s starting a new career, improving our health, or finding more balance in life. But turning those dreams into reality requires more than just wishful thinking. It takes intentional goal-setting, consistent effort, and a clear plan. The good news? With the right approach, you can set goals that actually stick and
