Something extraordinary happened recently. I sat down with Ginevra Grasso of Conoscere TV. She is the presenter of an internationally broadcast Italian television channel. Together, we talked about my book, Beyond the Goat Pen: An African Woman’s Journey. The interview is now live on YouTube. So today, I want to share what we discussed. Because […]
We’ve spent eleven weeks talking about what’s broken. We discussed toxic relatives who harm children. We explored cultural practices that enable abuse. We examined family dynamics that exploit the vulnerable. This final week is about what you’re building instead. The most powerful response to generational dysfunction isn’t just stopping the harm. It’s creating something better.
Here’s what nobody tells you about protecting your children from toxic family members: The protection doesn’t erase what already happened. Your child has already absorbed messages from relatives who hurt them. They’ve already witnessed harm. They’ve already learned patterns that will affect them. Setting boundaries stops future harm. But it doesn’t automatically undo past harm.
Here’s what nobody tells you about protecting your children from toxic family members: The protection doesn’t erase what already happened. Your child has already absorbed messages from relatives who hurt them. They’ve already witnessed harm. They’ve already learned patterns that will affect them. Setting boundaries stops future harm. But it doesn’t automatically undo past harm.
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This is one of the hardest situations you’ll face as a parent: Your child adores the uncle who makes inappropriate comments. They light up around the grandmother who constantly undermines you. They ask about the cousin who treats them terribly. They cry when you limit contact with the relative who you know is harmful. You’re
A childhood memory from Yola — and what it taught me about raising children Some childhood memories stay with you forever. This is one of mine. It is funny, dramatic, and surprisingly relevant to everything I now teach as a parent and teen coach. So sit back. Let me take you to Yola. Locked In
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“You’re making your children lose their culture.” “They won’t know where they come from.” “You’re raising them to be too Western.” “You’re ashamed of your heritage.” If you’ve set boundaries with toxic relatives or refused to participate in harmful cultural practices, you’ve probably heard these accusations. They’re designed to make you feel guilty, to make
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By Latifah Ajetunmobi | Parent, Teen & Life Coach | Author of Beyond the Goat Pen A Historic Vote the World Needs to Know About On the 25th of March 2026, something historic happened at the United Nations. It was the International Day of Remembrance of the Victims of Slavery and the Transatlantic Slave Trade.
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A California jury has found Meta and Google liable for teen social media addiction and depression. Here is what the landmark $3 million verdict means — and the 6 actions every parent should take this week. Today is a historic day. A California jury found Meta and Google’s YouTube legally liable for the mental health
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Setting boundaries with toxic relatives is one of the hardest things you’ll do as a parent. Not because it’s complicated—the actual action is usually quite simple. It’s hard because of everything that comes afterward: the guilt, the family pressure, the accusations, the social consequences, and your own internal conflict between protecting your children and maintaining
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