So much digital parenting advice points at the teenager. This week, I want to turn the lens somewhere less comfortable: onto us, the parents. Because the most powerful influence on your teen’s relationship with technology isn’t a rule you set or a conversation you have. It’s the example you live, every single day, with your […]
If you’re parenting a teenager who’s already deep in their digital life, there’s a thought that may have crept in: I think I’ve already missed it. The first phone went out without the conversation. The first account appeared without a plan. And now your teen is fifteen, and the early steps feel like a chance
Today, Nigeria marks Children’s Day. Across the country, schools that are still open will sing, children will be dressed in their finest, and speeches will be made about “the leaders of tomorrow. ” And somewhere — in Oriire, in Maga, in Papiri, in places we may never name — there are children who will not
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A follow-up to my Africa Day reflection—by Latifah Ajetunmobi On Monday I asked you to be proud of where you come from. To carry your Africanness through every airport you pass through. To teach your children the language of their grandmothers. Today I have to ask you something harder. I have to ask you to
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By Latifah Ajetunmobi This Monday, 25 May 2026, the world marks Africa Day—63 years since our founding fathers signed the Organisation of African Unity into existence in Addis Ababa in 1963. Sixty-three years of unity, integration, and development. Sixty-three years of a continent still rising, still healing, still teaching the world what resilience looks like.
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Today, the world marks the International Day of the Boy Child. We celebrate boys. We also confront the quiet crisis they face. Our sons are scrolling more. Talking less. Struggling silently. As a parent-teen coach and former mental health nurse, I see it every week. This day matters. Here’s why — and what you can
Every 15th of May since 1994, the world pauses to mark the International Day of Families. It is not a day of cake and balloons. It is a day of reckoning — a moment to ask honestly how the smallest unit of our societies, the family, is faring under the weight of a fast-moving world.
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Something extraordinary happened recently. I sat down with Ginevra Grasso of Conoscere TV. She is the presenter of an internationally broadcast Italian television channel. Together, we talked about my book, Beyond the Goat Pen: An African Woman’s Journey. The interview is now live on YouTube. So today, I want to share what we discussed. Because
We’ve spent eleven weeks talking about what’s broken. We discussed toxic relatives who harm children. We explored cultural practices that enable abuse. We examined family dynamics that exploit the vulnerable. This final week is about what you’re building instead. The most powerful response to generational dysfunction isn’t just stopping the harm. It’s creating something better.
Here’s what nobody tells you about protecting your children from toxic family members: The protection doesn’t erase what already happened. Your child has already absorbed messages from relatives who hurt them. They’ve already witnessed harm. They’ve already learned patterns that will affect them. Setting boundaries stops future harm. But it doesn’t automatically undo past harm.
