This is one of the hardest situations you’ll face as a parent: Your child adores the uncle who makes inappropriate comments. They light up around the grandmother who constantly undermines you. They ask about the cousin who treats them terribly. They cry when you limit contact with the relative who you know is harmful. You’re […]
A childhood memory from Yola — and what it taught me about raising children Some childhood memories stay with you forever. This is one of mine. It is funny, dramatic, and surprisingly relevant to everything I now teach as a parent and teen coach. So sit back. Let me take you to Yola. Locked In
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“You’re making your children lose their culture.” “They won’t know where they come from.” “You’re raising them to be too Western.” “You’re ashamed of your heritage.” If you’ve set boundaries with toxic relatives or refused to participate in harmful cultural practices, you’ve probably heard these accusations. They’re designed to make you feel guilty, to make
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Setting boundaries with toxic relatives is one of the hardest things you’ll do as a parent. Not because it’s complicated—the actual action is usually quite simple. It’s hard because of everything that comes afterward: the guilt, the family pressure, the accusations, the social consequences, and your own internal conflict between protecting your children and maintaining
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Every family has one. The uncle who drinks too much at gatherings and gets “handsy.” The older cousin whose “play wrestling” always seems to involve inappropriate touching. The grandfather who insists on lap-sitting with grandchildren who are way too old for it. The aunt’s boyfriend who’s “just being friendly” but makes every young girl in
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The Predator’s Playbook Part 2: The Billionaire, The Prince, and The Charities That Hid It All How Victoria’s Secret money funded a trafficking empire, how fake charities gave a predator respectability, and why a prince was arrested on his birthday. By Latifah Ajetunmobi | Certified Parent, Teen & Life Coach | 12 min read Published:
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“Respect your elders.” “Family first.” “Don’t talk back.” “Do what you’re told.” These directives are repeated in homes and communities worldwide, passed down as fundamental values. And they are valuable—when applied in healthy contexts. But when these same principles are used to silence children who are being mistreated, to force compliance with abusive relatives, or
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A man dies, and overnight, his widow becomes public property. Relatives who barely acknowledged her when her husband was alive suddenly have strong opinions about how she should grieve, where she should live, who she should be, and whether she’s even fit to raise her own children. And the children watch. They watch their mother—the
Your child’s stomach hurts every time you announce a family gathering. Your teenager suddenly has homework they “must” finish whenever relatives visit. Your normally chatty kid goes silent when certain uncles or aunts are around. These aren’t coincidences. They’re distress signals. Children are remarkably perceptive. They sense danger before they can articulate it. They feel
